Chem test tomorrow... that could only mean one thing... hehehe Lucy is blogging in attempt to procrastinate =P hehehe, ok.. chem is boring, chem is hard, chem is non-sense, chem is stupid, y do i have to take chem?!?!?!? WHY?!?!?! lol... yea that's just random
Anyway, stupid mum... gave me so much to think about last night, about grandparents and stuff. Ok.. this is the situation, my grandma has parkinson disease, which means she isn't very mobile at all. It's really rather sad... because our family don't really let her go out much anymore, coz of the inconvenience. Sometime next week, there's her drawing teacher's art exhibition which she really wanted to go. However, my grandpa can't take her coz he is still recovering from the car accident he had from last year. (which means she can't carry her from the wheel chair to taxi or whatever.) They just recently got a new maid (from Indonesia i think) and since she's new, we can't expect her to take care of grandma on her own. i mean what if she get lost... her chinese isn't that great anyway. So in order for grandma to go to this art exhibition, my uncle (who lives with my grandparents) have to take the day off to drive her around, so he isn't very happy about it. My aunty is also not very happy about it coz with the maid out of the house.. she has to do lots of housework and stuff.
*sigh* this is the dilemma with our family back in tw for years now... prob ever since we came to NZ. Mum asked me if i were them, would i give a little sacrifice to let grandma to have a day which she'll enjoy. Without thinking, i would say yes.. y not!! but if i was my uncle or aunty, i might think otherwise. Of course they want my grandma to be happy, but they've been giving, and taking care of them for soooo long... they are probabily exhausted and tired. Sacrificing one day isn't much... but it's a lot when it's the 50th time, or even 100th time.
On the other hand, it's really sad if grandma can't go. Honestly... she has no life now!! she can't write, she can't draw(one of her passion) becoz her hands shake so much), she can't go out coz it's inconvenient, and no one will let her! oh.. and she can't really talk properly too.. (depending on the day, sometimes she's relaly good, but sometimes her words are really 'mushy'. And i think her eyesight isn't that great now either.. she just had surgery on one of her eyes. =S Sounds like a living hell to me, but it's probably as bad for other family members to, having to take care of someone, constantly worried if she'll fall etc etc...
I think this is y dad goes back to tw so often now... he's the elder son, and traditionally, he shodul be the one taking care of grandparents. He talked to grandma last night.. trying to convince her to think about other ppl, and dont' cause such a big trouble for other ppl. And after many failed attempts to convince her. He told her somethign which i thought was cruel. he said "look at urself, u dont' look as great as u were before, why woudl you want to go out and change ppl's impression of you, woudlnt' you want ppl to remember you as one pretty lady who doesn't need the wheel chair??? " my heart churn when i heard mum said this.. ok.. my grandma is one of those ppl that really care about image... this would've hurt her feelings ALOT!!! but can u blame my dad for saying such harsh words?? when his bro complains to him about all these, and he knows that he shoudl be the one over there doing things for his mum, not his little bro and especially not for 9 years!!! The fact is... all of us want grandma to go!! but non of us have the right to tell uncle to do this for grandma!! coz we are not him!! we are not the one that has to do the sacrificing, it's easy for us to say, but not easy for him to do!!
The fone call didn't end with a conclusion, so we dont' know if grandma change her mind about going or not. But mum told me to be good to grandparents when we go back this year... and, well.. she said after i graduate.. dad and her are prob going back permanently to help and do their duty as son and daughter in law... and i think they should!
If i ever get parkinsons, i think i'll either kill myself, or go to a resthome!! i woudlnt' want my existance to become a burden to ppl i love... but then if i do have the disease.. woudlnt' i want to surround myself with the ppl i love????
Anyway, stupid mum... gave me so much to think about last night, about grandparents and stuff. Ok.. this is the situation, my grandma has parkinson disease, which means she isn't very mobile at all. It's really rather sad... because our family don't really let her go out much anymore, coz of the inconvenience. Sometime next week, there's her drawing teacher's art exhibition which she really wanted to go. However, my grandpa can't take her coz he is still recovering from the car accident he had from last year. (which means she can't carry her from the wheel chair to taxi or whatever.) They just recently got a new maid (from Indonesia i think) and since she's new, we can't expect her to take care of grandma on her own. i mean what if she get lost... her chinese isn't that great anyway. So in order for grandma to go to this art exhibition, my uncle (who lives with my grandparents) have to take the day off to drive her around, so he isn't very happy about it. My aunty is also not very happy about it coz with the maid out of the house.. she has to do lots of housework and stuff.
*sigh* this is the dilemma with our family back in tw for years now... prob ever since we came to NZ. Mum asked me if i were them, would i give a little sacrifice to let grandma to have a day which she'll enjoy. Without thinking, i would say yes.. y not!! but if i was my uncle or aunty, i might think otherwise. Of course they want my grandma to be happy, but they've been giving, and taking care of them for soooo long... they are probabily exhausted and tired. Sacrificing one day isn't much... but it's a lot when it's the 50th time, or even 100th time.
On the other hand, it's really sad if grandma can't go. Honestly... she has no life now!! she can't write, she can't draw(one of her passion) becoz her hands shake so much), she can't go out coz it's inconvenient, and no one will let her! oh.. and she can't really talk properly too.. (depending on the day, sometimes she's relaly good, but sometimes her words are really 'mushy'. And i think her eyesight isn't that great now either.. she just had surgery on one of her eyes. =S Sounds like a living hell to me, but it's probably as bad for other family members to, having to take care of someone, constantly worried if she'll fall etc etc...
I think this is y dad goes back to tw so often now... he's the elder son, and traditionally, he shodul be the one taking care of grandparents. He talked to grandma last night.. trying to convince her to think about other ppl, and dont' cause such a big trouble for other ppl. And after many failed attempts to convince her. He told her somethign which i thought was cruel. he said "look at urself, u dont' look as great as u were before, why woudl you want to go out and change ppl's impression of you, woudlnt' you want ppl to remember you as one pretty lady who doesn't need the wheel chair??? " my heart churn when i heard mum said this.. ok.. my grandma is one of those ppl that really care about image... this would've hurt her feelings ALOT!!! but can u blame my dad for saying such harsh words?? when his bro complains to him about all these, and he knows that he shoudl be the one over there doing things for his mum, not his little bro and especially not for 9 years!!! The fact is... all of us want grandma to go!! but non of us have the right to tell uncle to do this for grandma!! coz we are not him!! we are not the one that has to do the sacrificing, it's easy for us to say, but not easy for him to do!!
The fone call didn't end with a conclusion, so we dont' know if grandma change her mind about going or not. But mum told me to be good to grandparents when we go back this year... and, well.. she said after i graduate.. dad and her are prob going back permanently to help and do their duty as son and daughter in law... and i think they should!
If i ever get parkinsons, i think i'll either kill myself, or go to a resthome!! i woudlnt' want my existance to become a burden to ppl i love... but then if i do have the disease.. woudlnt' i want to surround myself with the ppl i love????
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